How To Combat Being Stifled By Your Surroundings

At heart, I''m a city girl. I crave a hectic lifestyle, I crave hectic surroundings basically I thrive on hectic. James always jokes he's never seen me have down time and for the most part, that's completely true and just how I like it. From the minute I wake up to the second I close my eyesI'm doing something. Be it working, blogging, going to the gym or attending my pole classes to seeing my friends I'm always doing something and in all honesty, I get a little bit anxious what I'm not doing anything, I bloody hate it.

So what happens when you're a hectic lifestyle lover but live in a gorgeous but equally dull little town? You being to feel stifled by the nothingness. Creativeness goes out of the window, I feel uninspired my hectic quota completely unfulfilled. Recently in a bid to help me aid this I have started to do 3 things to help aid the dull

Get out more 

Instead of staying in my little village all weekend, James and I have started spending the weekends in Leeds/York However this does come with a cost, so sometimes it's just not plausible when you're trying to be an adult and be sensible with your cash ahem . . . .

Make the most of your trips out

Again if money is on my side I like t take trips out that are further afield than just the surrounding areas. I like to visit London as much as possible so I can soak up some culture and get really inspired, fully charging my creative battries. There's just something about London just being in London that feeds my hectic soul. I crave the grungy streets of Brick Lane and the atmosphere over at South Bank and its surroundings. To the uber chic blogger choice streets of white house with black iron fences. We also visit Manchester a lot, James is from Cheshire meaning that whilst spending some time with his family - we can also take full advantage of them living so close to another one of my favourite cities and send some time in the area - in particular, the Northen Quarter, It's not quite London but I always leave creatively satisfied and stacked up on content. 

Make the most of my surroundings

Ok so when the two aforementioned points aren't possible because of #funds or lack of them, I guess you've gotta make use of what you've got. This weekend I'm going to walk around my village armed with my camera and make the most of what I've got. I need to do a little exploring and discover some places in which to make use of for my blog.


As much as I would love to move to London [ literally at the drop of a hat] there would be a  whole lot of sacrifices I would have to make before I do so. I'd miss my friends, I've got a good bunch of people around me, some of my relationships of them are 10+ years old. I know over time I would make new ones and true friendships survive any distance but it just wouldn't be the same. I'd have to leave my jobI love that lets me be 100% myself behind in favour of work I might not be so bothered about. After waiting years of finding contentment in employment, I'm not so sure I'm ready to give that up just yet.

Have you ever felt stifled by your surroundings? How did you combat it?


  1. This is such a relatable post! I need to start getting out more. There's nothing to do where I live and instead of going out and finding something to do I just stay in my room watching netflix and then I feel like I've wasted my day!

    Lauren | Lauren the Daydreamer

  2. I know what you mean! I couldn't handle living in a city though but it's nice to go and visit them! I'm definitely a town girl! It's good to make the most of your days out too!

    Katie x

  3. I don’t often get this, as I am quite lucky and live in Leeds city centre - if anything I sometimes crave the quite village life. Although I know I would likely soon be bored of it.

    Hayley @ Tea Party Beauty

  4. Such a relatable post Hun ! I felt so stuck where I live because I always wanted to be in London where all the streets are instagrammable ha! But I've realised I have so many beautiful places around me and need to make the most of these when I go out !

  5. I'm not a city girl by any means, but I love visiting them! I prefer towns but where I am at uni makes me feel so stifled because there isn't much to do unlike at home. I definitely need to start doing more things! X

    Victoria | VictoriaaHelenn

  6. I know exactly how you feel! I moved from a city to a really small village for uni where I went from being surrounded by shops, music and lots of people to a few tourists with cameras... I just feel like there is nothing to do here! This is some really valuable advice and I need to visit London one day!

    Robyn //


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