Tuesday, 18 April 2017

Why You're Never Too Old

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In March, I turned 27 and suddenly felt an overwhelming urge to ''grow up'', NGL I had a little existential crisis where I started picking different aspects of my life and questioning where I should be and if was failing at this whole adult thing. When I was a kid, I thought that on the approach to 30 I should have my own house, be married and have kids, basically, I thought I was meant to have my shit together. 3 years away from the big 3 - 0 and I couldn't be further away. You see, as much as the above for many years was the ''norm'' it's something, when I thought about it, I never really wanted. I'm not maternal in the slightest and honestly, I've never really wanted kids, it's just something I didn't want to do. As for marriage, both my parents have been married more than once, and again when I really thought about it, it's something I really wasn't bothered about - that, however, was the case until recently. I had never met anyone that made me change my views on getting married, I never used to dream of the big white dress etc, until I met James and I started to warm to the idea, a part of me thinks being married to him wouldn't be so bad ;) The house thing scares me quite a lot. I would love to have my own home, that I owned and I wasn't chucking away hundreds of pounds a month to live in a property that wasn't mine. I moved out when I was 19 and have rented ever since, making it near on impossible to pay rent and save for a mortgage at the same time.

I feel like I'm on some sort of 'life' timescale where I should be well on the road to the things mentioned above. If I am to marry, I need to do it before I'm 30, same goes with being able to buy a house. I have this ludicrous idea in my head that I need to do all these major life milestones before I'm 30 otherwise I've pretty much failed at life. I also feel like I need adopt that attitude for the things I like to do too, that I should start dressing a certain way and I should stop liking things that may be considered a little childish. I was recently contacted by EMP to do a collab with them, I was practically drooling over their Disney inspired dresses and wondered if I should choose something else that was more ''age appropriate'' But recently I've started to question why? I like watching anime, I like that the foot of my bed is covered with cuddly toys. I like reading books that are aimed at ''young adult'' I really like wearing big fluffy pajamas with dinosaurs printed all over them. If I wanna wear an Alice in Wonderland inspired dreams then I'm gonna. These are the things that make me happy. I think I've started to realise that, I can do both things. I don't have to cut one thing out for another. 

I think I need to stop being so hard on myself, younger Jess would be quite happy with the direction present Jess is going. I have a great job in an industry that I love. I'm finally on a good wage that reflects the role that I do meaning I can start putting enough money away so James and I can buy a house that is ours. I can still go to HyperJapan in London and dress as my fave anime character. I can wear whatever ever the hell I like, I can still go out and get as many piercings as I want and dye my hair whatever colour I feel. No matter what my head keeps trying to tell me, I may not have been able to do these things as soon as I would have liked but I am by no means failing at being an adult. If anything, I'd say I'm doing just fine. 


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8 comments

  1. Love love LOVED this post girl! First of all that dress is bloody gorgeous and I love the location you've taken the photos in too!

    I have literally just scheduled a post for later this week on the theme of cutting myself some slack when it comes to where I'm at in my life (although mine is more financial-related) and I couldn't agree more with what you've said. There is a ridiculous amount of pressure on young people to have these huge life 'goals' ticked off as early as possible and I feel like our parents generation frown on us so much for not having these things ticked off the list by the time they did but they don't take into account the changing economic climate and the fact that society itself has changed massively over the last 10+ years. XO

    LJLV | Luxury Meets Alternative

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  2. This is such a good post! The amount of times I've had people make fun of me for liking things that are 'childish', i.e. harry potter, disney etc. is unbelievable! I hate the fact that once you hit a certain age it suddenly becomes unacceptable to still like the things you liked as a kid. I could quite happily sit and watch old cartoons all day and I shouldn't feel like a rubbish adult for it! Brilliant post <3 xxx
    http://www.samanthafrances.co.uk

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  3. I feel like I've had this internal monologue with myself so many times. When we're younger, we just have this map of how we want things to go. Or at least how we think they're supposed to go. As I get older, I realize that things don't have to follow the guidelines that I grew up thinking as normal. Like you said, the past you would be proud to see how the present you is doing. I think the same for myself, my past self would love I have become. I have stopped trying to be this adult who has her shit wrapped in this perfect little bow. That's not me, and it never will be. I am completely happy with how my life is going presently. Great post, super well said xxx

    Melina | www.ivefoundwaldo.com

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  4. This is a really good post! You're never too old though and you tend to realise that you don't have to follow the 'guide' to being an adult that society has made! Things are so different now to how they used to be. Whenever I try explain this to my family they don't understand though!


    Love the outfit too!

    Katie x www.katie-middleton.co.uk

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  5. Omg I'm in love with the dress!!! It suits you perfectly ahh off to check out all the dresses they have available *_*

    skinnydecxflatte.blogspot.com xo

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  6. That dress is so pretty - you’re never too old for Alice in Wonderland.

    I felt the same when I hit 30, I always imagined I would be a happily married home owner with a couple of kids… I don’t even like kids. I hit 30 and although I have my own home, I’m single, no kids and live alone with my black witches cat. But, I don’t think I would trade it in for the traditional ‘dream’ if I was given the chance.

    Hayley @ Tea Party Beauty

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  7. Yesss this so much! I'm 27 atm, 28 end of this year, and I still dress like I'm 15�� skinny jeans and hoodies kinda thing. I still go to a load of gigs like I did when I was younger (except now I can actually drink ha!) And dya know what, I'm perfectly happy doing what I do! I don't have a house or kids or marriage either! I'll be renting (again) in a few months and I'm engaged but kids are not for us:)!

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  8. LOVE this post! I remember seeing a tweet a few weeks back where somebody was complaining about how there are so many bloggers who are in their twenties yet always go on about unicorns and disney, and how its so childish, and I thought so what? It hardly hurts anyone, and just because we hit our twenties it doesn't mean we have to suddenly switch what we like.

    Lauren | Lauren the Daydreamer

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